Alright, drained the gearbox, oil was clean.
But it looked like I hadn't drained the old oil too well - filmy residue on the surface, a bit of swirling. I'm letting it drain for a few hours today. Shifter now goes into first and second, if I roll the car backwards it can go into other gears sometimes too, sometimes none. Don't know what's normal though especially without oil.
So headed to the auto shop to grab some more oil. Spoke to the guy there, he grabbed a bottle of Nulon 75-90, I was shocked to see it was $80 and I asked if he had anything cheaper as it was going in a probably-dead box. He said that putting cheaper oil in an old gearbox can destroy the box... Told him that's exactly what I had probably just done.
FYI what I put in it was fully synth Castrol 80-90W, cost me about $25.
Anyway. He said it's extremely unlikely but sold it to me anyway. Fingers crossed but not expecting anything.
Post oil change update - Nup! Goes into 1st and reverse, second with effort, got stuck in second when I tried to drive in that. Doesn't drive forward in any gears except neutral. I was pretty cautious because I don't want to cause more damage. It's
is my final diagnoses.